Comment On Infidelity...

I understand that being cheated on is gonna suck. It really is.
I'm not sure though that its ever that black and white. If you're not happy in your relationship, just leave. Fine. But that would be assuming that the only reason people cheat was because they didnt want to be with the other person any more, and i just don't see that as true.

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Tatoos sort of baffle me.

They are all the rage, but i find it difficult to work out why.

I don't particularly have strong views either way on them. They don't bother me, but at the same time, i'm not neccassarily sure i want one.

Why is it that having something written or drawn onto your skin is so sort after?

And why does it have to be permanent to matter?

I could sit here with my pen and draw whatever i wish onto my skin...and then wash it off later. But its not the same is it?

I read on this website http://www.vanishingtattoo.com/, that in 2006, America alone had almost 1 in 4 people between ages 18 and 50 who were tatooed.

I asked originally, was this because almost 1 in 4 18 to 50 year olds were unhappy in their skin, but this makes no sense, since many of these people would only have at least one tatoo...

Plus, i was wondering why lots of people say, "if i were to get a tattoo, it'd be somewhere i could hide it." Why?!?

Baffling!

Are the paparazzi just stalkers??

What do you reckon? I found it hard to come to a decision here.
When were asked this very question in the lecture, my immediate reaction was 'obviously not'. But then after greater thought, the idea that the press were just practising a form of stalking seemed more and more plausible.
Even more disturbing, i realised that because the public, (myself, very much included here), seem so celeb obsessed and buy the latest magazines that tell us what our favourite stars are up to, we must be part of the problem? If we continue to buy and read these magazines, then we cannot very well argue that the paparazzi are really awful to those who they take pictures of.

Truth is however, that when i re evaluated the idea, i remembered that celebrities need the press to survive. Although the may very well moan about photographers, the fact remains that they would be nowhere without them. They rely on the exposure that even just one photograph gives them. If they weren't being photographed and followed, then there would certainly be complaints, and really and truly, would there be any one famous, if we didnt know all about them??
It is true that some photographers do go over the top, just to get a shot of that certain somebody, but i don't believe that they can really be called stalkers, when the cleberities themselves have voluntarily put themselves in that position.

A most recent story that made me laugh was that of Britney Spears and her beau, Adnan Ghalib - a celebrity gossip photographer.
http://www.thehollywoodgossip.com/2008/01/britney-spears-adnan-ghalib-shack-up-in-palm-springs/

Are you a wanker?

After the much anticipated masturbation lecture, i began to wonder why masturbation is such a taboo subject. And largely male orientated.
Also known as wanking, jerking, tossing off, tugging, flicking the bean among others, masturbation plays a large part in a lot of peoples lives. It is something that an individual has complete control over and can do when entirely on their own to fuflfill their sexul needs.
However, masturbation, i am almost certain must happen more than sex, and yet it is the later that gets spoken about way more.
Why do we think it less socially acceptable to have a conversation about that wank we had before lunch, than we do about the amazing sex we had the night before?
Some say it is the most natural insticnt in the world.
When researching the topic, i found numerous stories of the right to masturbate being taken away.
In the past, the act was seen as wrong, and those who did it defied certain religious beliefs.
Truth is, since it is an instinct in us all,the most natural of all it seems, how can everyone be wrong?

I can honestly hold my hands up and say that for me, sex is a bigger part of life than is masturbation.
However, i have several friends who manage to 'flick the bean' more often that not, so whats the problem?
You might say that the fact i know this means that talking about the subject is getting easier for people, and more common, but since sex is the foundation of all human life, and keeps us going as a population, i do not see the state of affairs changing.

Anyway...

I found an article on the subject suggesting that a wank a day (for men) could help improve the quality of sperm.....so now you have an excuse

http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/2007/10/16/daily_wanking/

Bean Being Bad

For the past four years, My friend 'Bean' has been a smoker. However, her parents still do not know about this habit, as she has managed to hide it from them.


But why? Is the question i find myself asking.


Since she is now what is deemed 'a responsible adult' able to make her own decisions in life, why should she keep it from her parents. Is she embarrased of this habit she seems so fond of?


Eating mints and spraying perfume on enetering the house after a night out are a common occurrence. She often hides her many lighters in that 'oh so secret' hiding place... her knicker draw.


Bean is aware of all the dangers of smoking, so i put the question to her.


The main reason for hiding the habit from her parents is for fear that they would be angry at her, and ultimately ashamed.


So why, if she thinks smoking is something to be ashamed of, does she do it?


I did perhaps think that it was because neither of her parents were smokers, but then wondered if it would actually be any different. For it seems no parent wants their child to harm themselves. So do you just grow wiser with age? Do you realise eventually that it was a silly idea to begin smoking in the first place, and wish you never had? I really don't know.


Anyway, one day in the "near future" bean informs me, she will stop smoking, but she hopes that her parents will never find out about her smoky past.

This website suggests possible reasons why teens start and/or continue to smoke

http://www.teendrugabuse.us/teensmoking.html

Is Infidelity really that bad?

Well what makes it so?
I've often thought that the worst thing about it, is the 'being cheated on' part. The way it would make some one feel. So, its the getting caught then? Which although its said the truth always outs, believe me, i know of many a case when people cheat (sometimes repeatedly) without ever being found out. Still, i'm a firm believer in not intentionally hurting another persons feelings, but say for arguments sake, you were absolutely certain that the other person would never find out and therefore never get hurt, then is the act of cheating in itself, really all that bad an action? Seeing as it obviously must provide pleasure of some kind for those involved.
I know this may seem like a double standard, so lets ask the question....
How would i like it if i was being cheated on?
Would i like it? No. Clearly.
But, if i really didnt know about it, and so therefore the idea of another woman with 'him' was never really a thing to worry about (Or so i thought), then what is the problem?
He gets me, and this mystery woman/women, without any hassle, and i, indeed am able to get away with
"getting off with that fit lad from oceana last week"
Makes sense really.

This article i read on the internet suggests that infidelity is actually a natural thing and that true monogomy is rare. As animals, we are genetically inclined to stray......so for all you cheaters, there's your excuse. You were just born that way

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/sci/tech/179988.stm

Module field trip

I suggest that we go to see a comedy night for Week 9; Nasty comedians,
or perhaps visit a certain religious group or place.
For example, a monastry etc.